You know I can’t stay away from lists for too long, so the do’s and don’t’s of interviewing will be coming shortly. I did want to give one specific example of what not to do when going to an interview.
While working as a recruiter in Seattle, Washington, I was in the office one day and had no more interviews scheduled. Two women walked through the front door. My office was in a spot where I could eagle-eye the comings and goings of the office. A lady, who had to be in her forties, was carrying flowers and accompanied by a young woman, who had to have been in her early twenties. They both stopped at my door and asked if I could spare a moment of my time. Non-rude options were very limited, so I said yes.
The flower bearer, we’ll call her “Patty”, proceeds to give me the flowers in the hopes to brighten my day. Patty went on to explain how “Angela” was here to help her get her career back on track after some personal setbacks. I expected the subject of personal setbacks to be dropped then and there. I was wrong. Patty proceeds to tell me how two days prior her apartment was broken into and all of her underwear were cut to pieces. To ensure I believed her, she pulled out the remnants of a pair of cut up undergarments. Stunned, I tried to reassure her I was very sorry about the recent events and walked through a very brief interview. The interview was wrapped up, and I never heard from Patty ever again.
Obviously, Patty had been through some trauma, and I am not trying to exploit her experience. I applaud her for trying to gain some normalcy and for reaching out to a career counseling agency to assist her in doing so. However, if I could go back in time and give Patty some advice, I would let her know the following (I guess I can’t escape my propensity for list making!):
1. Don’t show up without an appointment. Ever.
2. Don’t bring gifts to an interview. It won’t give you a leg up or earn you brownie points.
3. Don’t rush too soon into finding a job after a traumatic experience. You won’t be in the right frame of mind and won’t be able to put your best foot forward. If money is a concern, utilize community/emergency service agencies to find any sort-of assistance until you get back on your feet.
4. If you have to divulge personal incidents, keep the information to the minimum. Showing the cut up underwear was just too much! Also, if at all possible, let the interviewer know of any positives you may have learned from the situation.
It’s been six years since my interview with Patty, and I still wonder what she’s doing. I hope she is doing well and has a successful career.
Positive Thought of the Day:
“Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.” – George S. Patton