“Our patience will achieve more than our force.” – Edmund Burk

I wanted to share a glimpse into my personal job hunting process in the hopes of showing how playing it cool as an applicant can actually  help.

At the end of June I had an informal interview for a position at a local bank. Everything went seemingly well; the hiring manager and I seemed to hit it off, so I felt pretty positive about how it went. The position hadn’t been finalized so there was no telling when I would hear word about the next step.

Flash forward to a month later when I still hadn’t heard boo about the status of the position. Rather than panicking I sent a friendly, yet professional, e-mail to the person I interviewed with expressing my continued interest in the position. She responded by letting me know the final details were being ironed out, but she was glad I was still interested.

Still with me? Two days ago I had seen the position posted online. Originally I had been prompted to send my information through a personal contact so it wasn’t common knowledge the position was open. There was a little part of me that thought I was no longer in the running. I was also tempted to reapply to get my name in the circulation through a slightly different path. My gut prevailed and told me to wait. If they wanted me to know what the next step was, they would tell me.

So what was waiting for me in my e-mail inbox today? An e-mail from the hiring manager I had been working with! She said had encouraged me to fill out the application in the hopes of still being interested in the position.

Now I am not naive enough to think I am a lock for this position. It was just encouraging to know that a little patience can yield positive results in the interviewing process!

Positive Thought of the Day :
“Waiting and hoping is a hard thing to do when you’ve already been waiting and hoping for almost as long as you can bear it.” – Jenny Ninno

“The end of labor is to gain leisure.” – Aristotle


Take some time off to relax. Whether you’ve been working, job hunting, or both, you deserve a break! Fire up the grill and have a Happy Labor Day!

Positive Thought of the Day:
“Before the reward there must be labor. You must plant before you harvest. You sow tears before you reap joy.” – Ralph Rarson

“Running is the greatest metaphor for life, because you get out of it what you put into it.” – Oprah Winfrey

Congratulations to Everyone Who Completed the Fargo Marathon!!  Whether you participated in the 10K, Half-, or Full Marathon, you should be very, very proud of yourself!

Positive Thought of the Day:

“In running, it doesn’t matter whether you come in first, in the middle of the pack, or last. You can say, ‘I have finished.’ There is a lot of satisfaction in that.”  – Fred Lebow, New York City Marathon co-founder

“Our brightest blazes of gladness are commonly kindled by unexpected sparks.” – Samuel Johnson

Okay.  I have to admit that I am pleasantly surprised.  I don’t want to sound ungrateful to those who have been coming here on a regular basis or surprised that people come here at all.  However, The Hitchhiker’s Guide to Job Hunting has had its busiest week in its history.  This week there have been 103 visitors to the site; 85 on Monday alone!! 

I just wanted to say, “Thank you, thank you, thank you for the support!!!”  What a great feeling to know what you are writing is reaching out to others.


P.S.  Don’t hug human resources without expressed written consent!

Positive Thought of the Day:

“Better understated than overstated. Let people be surprised that it was more than you promised and easier than you said.” – John Rohn

“Time you enjoyed wasting is not wasted time.” – T.S. Elliot

Happy Cinco de Mayo, Friends!  You know what that means.  Syttende Mai is just around the corner!  Through off the boughs of the work week.  Enjoy your weekend.  We’ll go over how to handle long-winded interviews another time.

Positive Thought of the Day:

 “The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be” – Marcel Pagnol

“Always strive to excel, but only on weekends.” – Richard Rorty

It’s Saturday.  Get off the computer.  Stop looking at the want ads.  Go out and go fly a kite.  Do they even make actual kites anymore or are they just apps on intelligent phones??  Point is:  Take the weekend off.  Relax your mind.  Monday will show up no matter how much you do or don’t do in the next 48 hours.

Positive Thought of the Day:

“One of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one’s work is terribly important.” – Bertrand Russell

“Oh, you hate your job? Why didn’t you say so? There’s a support group for that. It’s called EVERYBODY, and they meet at the bar.” – Drew Carey


Job searching can be one of the most isolating and confidence-crushing experiences a person can face. I know for me I tend to shy away from spending time with friends and family when I am having career troubles because of a couple of reasons. One, I don’t want to be a downer who is always droning on about my unhappiness. Two, it’s hard to have people who are gainfully and happily employed try and understand the tough feelings I am experiencing at the time.

I have come to the realization I have options in handling my frustrations about job searching.

So, Vanna, if you please . . .

1. Drink. Heavily. I do enjoy red wine, but this option is not good for my pocketbook, waistline, or liver.  It also does not produce any real, long-term solutions.

2. Suffer in silence. I’ve tried this, which tends to lead to option one.

3. Suffer in rage. Explaining during an interview why you spent a night in jail due to writing curse words into your boss’s front lawn with Round Up tends to be a buzz kill.

 4. Find others to commiserate with . . .

Which is why I have decided to start the Strategic Networking Group. The main focuses of the group will be to keep other professionals up-to-date on career opportunities, provide feedback on resumes and interview techniques, as well as providing support to others looking for a new avenue in their career. If you live in the Fargo-Moorhead area and would like to be a part of the Strategic Networking Group, please feel free to e-mail me at hangintheredante@gmail.com.

Meeting times and locations will be discussed once we get up and running. Skype options for those of you who are outside the F-M area may open up down the road.  Finding others going through similar experiences is always helpful.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Editor’s Note: I know I’ve used Drew Carey’s quote in an earlier post, but it was so fitting for what this is I had to recycle it. Normally I’m against reusing ideas. In fact, I wrote the rough draft of this post on first-growth rainforest paper.

Positive Thought of the Day:

“I’ve always thought that people need to feel good about themselves and I see my role as offering support to them, to provide some light along the way.” – Leo Buscaglia

“Hard work never killed anybody, but why take a chance?” – Edgar Bergen

Happy Tuesday, Friends!  More bad interviewer behavior is on its way, but I just wanted to brighten your cubicle. 


Positive Thought of the Day:

“Thanks to Toby I have a very strong prejudice against Human Resources. I believe that the department is a breeding ground for monsters. What I failed to consider though is that not all monsters are bad, like ET. Is Holly our extra-terrestrial? Maybe. Or maybe she’s just an awesome woman from this planet.” – Michael Scott, The Office